Blow up sex doll anyone?

blow up dolls male and femaleI often feel an affinity toward ‘dog’ people. No offense to you ‘cat’ people, it’s definitely not because we’re any smarter. In the never ending debate over whether or not it is efficacious or humane to use training techniques or devices that hurt or intimate a dog to get behaviors we want, we seem to prove that over and over again.

There are the reasons, causes and excuses for using force and pain that are directly spewed in mimicry of TV’s top oh so not an expert dog trainer (forget all the rubbish about rehabbing dogs and not training, it’s a sound bite and does not get him off the hook for being a bully either way). And then there are the excuses that make me lower my eyebrows, squint and ask, “You’ve got to be kidding right?”

Along with the, ‘it’s what wolves do’ outdated, disproved nonsense, there’s the ‘it’s what mom does’ absurdity. I recently saw a comment referring to prong collars, explaining that they work because they imitate what a mother does to a recalcitrant pup. Seriously? I am fairly certain that none of my dogs mistake me for either a dog or their mother. I’d also feel safe in saying that even if they did they would be able to differentiate between having an interaction that involved one participant putting their mouth on their neck versus a metal pronged device encircling their throat with six feet between them and another creature.

If you do not understand how and why prong, shock or choke collars work, you need to find out. It’s not that complicated, and it has nothing to do with growing up with the doggie equivalent of Joan Crawford. If you decide to use one, at least base your decision on something that actually makes sense.

They are ‘only’ dogs but not only do we demean them when we use pain or the threat of it, to control them, we demean them when we assume that their cognitive abilities are so limited that they’d not be able to tell the difference in the aforementioned prong collar scenario. Imitates a mother’s scruff grab…puleeeze.

This is like telling a teenager that having sex with a blow up doll is the same as with a living breathing human. “Yes dear, the sensations are exactly the same, and all in all it’s just like the real thing, trust me you’ll never know the difference.”

You gotta be kidding right?


18 comments so far

  1. Candy Blakeslee on

    Wonderful analogy. Thanks!

  2. Erica Kahunanui on

    Saw the same post 😉 I think we both had the same “scrath-the-top-of-your-head-and-say-huh?!!” response. Bless our dog-lovin’ hearts, we try so hard to be part of their species we even (terribly) mimic their mothers 😉

  3. Sue on

    This is so excellent, thank you! What is funny (but not really) is the insistence that dogs are in trouble in the US because we treat them like human children, and that the solution is for us to (badly) act like dogs using a wolf model we don’t even understand and that is entirely inapplicable. How about we let dogs be dogs and humans be humans and use our brains to communicate with each other?

  4. Brianne Villano on

    “No prong collaaars….evaaaah!!”

  5. Lorie Huston, DVM on

    If this wasn’t such a serious topic, you would have had me rolling on the floor laughing with this, Debbie. Cudos for a well-written, thoughtful and thought-provoking post!

    As it is such a serious matter, I urge anyone considering using an aversive device like a choke, prong or shock collar to honestly consider whether it’s truly in their dog’s best interest. Remember what seems to be a quick fix is often not the “best” fix.

    And, if I had a dime for every dog I’ve seen pulling at the end of a leash with a choke or prong collar and choking/coughing/gagging at the same time, I’d be a rich woman. So, how well is that really working?

    And to think it’s okay to actually shock your dog? Would you want to be taught that way? What if every time you answered incorrectly on a quiz when you were in school, you got a shock? Terror is not the best teaching method!

    • fearfuldogs on

      I say have a good roll Lorie!

    • Sue on

      FWIW, I thought Debbie made the point pretty clearly that these devices aren’t humane and aren’t even effective at what a certain tv personality claims they do (i.e., mimic momma dog behavior).

      • Sue on

        Oh, and I meant to add: the reason I think this is such a good contribution is because so many people gloss over the pain these things inflict to claim it’s just like what a mother dog does with the suggestion being that makes it okay. Well, no, it’s not what a momma dog does and even if it were, we’re not dogs and our dogs know we’re not dogs. So, the blog entry really gets to the heart of that with a great analogy the undercuts that justification/rationalization.

      • Lorie Huston, DVM on

        I thought she did too, Sue 🙂

      • fearfuldogs on

        Thanks Sue. As Lorie says, the suggestion would be laughable if there weren’t so many people out there terrorizing their dogs in the name of ‘dog psychology’.

  6. Mel on

    Amen sistah!

  7. AJ on

    Fantastic! I am always saying the same thing: “Dogs know we’re not dogs, so using alpha rolls and ‘finger biting’ would be confusing enough if they were actually things other dogs did. Except they aren’t. So not only are people mimicking a species that our dogs know we’re not part of, but they’re doing it WRONG.”

  8. Mary Haight on

    Great post, Debbie. Your title is irresistable! We humans are a clumsy thoughtless lot…many prefer to keep using tools of the “dark ages” because that’s all they know. And change is hard.

    As I was saying the other day to someone who eschews the title of “expert”, if we don’t stop denying who is and who isn’t, we’ll keep having these same problems. The seriously uninformed rise to top, the shocking and choking continues as if there were an actual training argument worthy of discussion on the topic.

    I like Lorie’s example of shocking a school child when they get wrong answers – amazing that people don’t think along these lines. “Don’t taz me bro!” might get some more attention to the matter.

  9. Jasmine on

    Very creative analogy. And certainly a title that not many will pass on checking out. Great job getting attention and making the point.

  10. Scarlett Salome on

    Thanks for sharing the article.I strongly agree to the point.. why not have fun with the sex dolls when you don’t have anyone beside .

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